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ADJUSTMENTS |

June 20, 2008

ADJUSTMENTS     
Name: SFC Toby Nunn   
Posting date: 6/20/08
Returned from: Kuwait/Iraq
Hometown: Oakland, CA via Terrace, B.C. CANADA
Milblog url: Toby Nunn's Briefing Room

I have been back about a week now and life is good. Of course there are the little things that you think that you won't have to experience, or that are not applicable to you, and then there they are. Like many people coming home I am experiencing adjustments.

The first and foremost is me forgetting who I am talking to and with. SFC Nunn was a supervisor and definitely in charge, while Toby is a bystander in the house. Household 6 has been me at the house, so now I am out of my element and deep in hers. I am enjoying being with the kids, but with that comes constant lessons about everything I need to know. It's exciting to participate in that but also humbling to see how the better half just breezes through so many different things.

Framed_nunn_with_kids_2 Priorities are different. I am a mission-focused man and we are about to have a serious family movement. Of course to me it's just that -- a movement (mission) -- so I have been planning it as such, with timelines, and tasks to supporting units, and with a beautiful scheme of maneuver that I know will not happen. I need to remember that the family does not understand a five-paragraph Operations Order, nor my need to make one.

I stand by my ability to take a task and accomplish it because that's what I know to do, and I expect that when I am tasked, one knows I get it done. So when I task people I expect the same. SFC Nunn can issue repercussions when important things get neglected or not accomplished, but Toby really can't do or say "squat" about it.

The sleeping is getting better, but I attribute that to there being an infant in the house that allows us to keep limited sleep schedules. I am still running at 70 mph and I am not sure when I will slow down, but it is helping me accomplish all that I have to do in a very short amount of time.

I have been able to incorporate visits with friends into task accomplishment, and doing group visits. I was able to see my good friend Nick on his lunch, then swing by to see Chris afterwards while rushing around picking things up. Today I am going to disguise a trip to Starbucks to see Cody, one of my favorite former PLs, and I'm using a party on the weekend to close a lot of other loops. One, which I am so excited for, is getting to hang with my Web Wizard Tim.

 

Comments

This photograph is perfect. I am guessing your wife took it and was, likely, blinking back tears when she snapped it. Let her be the CO for now. Lot's of snuggle time with her and the kids should be your primary mission for a while.

This photograph is perfect. I am guessing your wife took it and was, likely, blinking back tears when she snapped it. Let her be the CO for now. Lot's of snuggle time with her and the kids should be your primary mission for a while.

It is hard to remember our children are different than our troops.

In the military, I could say, "Go!" and off they went. I could say "Do!" and they did. If they questioned what I said, they did it anyway.

Not so with the kiddos, and rightly. Welcome home.

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